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Dear Parents,

Have you tried everything to improve your parenting? Read every book and watched every video - and nothing has worked?

Does parenting make you feel tired, confused and embarrassed?

Do you wish it were fun, rewarding and satisfying instead?

Well guess what? It CAN be. It takes work but you can finally be the parent you always wanted to be, raise the children you always wanted to raise and have the family of your dreams - it IS possible.

You're here today because you want to know how to "fix" your child or your parenting. And there are thousands of books, websites and people out there that want to answer this question for you. They all claim to have the answer. A tool or technique that is guaranteed to work for you.

"Do this and your parenting will be CURED!" they say. The advice seems easy enough and it works for a while. When it stops working you look for the next big thing. Or worse - you just give up. And your children drift further away from you and your relationship gets more strained by the day.

You have surely tried some of these "cures" before:

"Never spank your children, use timeouts instead."

"Never use timeouts, take away privileges."

"Don't just take away privileges - ground them until they are 25."
(OK so this isn't expert advice, but you know you have used it before.)

The Problem?

There is no single solution to solve all your parenting problems. Parenting is far too complex for that. Most people say it doesn't matter who you are, where you come from or where you want to go - their "magical strategy" will work for you. But when it doesn't you are back to square one, still lost and confused and no better of a parent than you were when you started. So you need help in more parenting areas. You need to learn all of...

The Four Pillars of Parenting

A chair can't stand on just one, two or even three legs. Imagine trying to sit in a chair with just one leg. You wouldn't be able to balance for more than a second or two without falling. A second leg would add a few more seconds. With three legs you could probably balance for a few minutes or possibly hours if you stayed focused. But, as your legs started to burn from resisting to lean back and as one side of your body began to numb from the added pressure, you finally have to give up and you collapse.

Parenting is no different and right now you are trying to parent on just one or two legs. But it's not until you add all four legs (or Pillars) that you can ever be truly balanced and comfortable. So as you read about The Four Pillars of Parenting, be honest with yourself about what you are missing from your parenting.

Pillar 1: Prevent the Pattern

Also known as your "Family of Origin", this includes your family history, family traditions that you want to carry on and most importantly how your parents parented you. Seems pretty simple right? But have you really confronted why you are the way you are? Have you made peace with your past? Well you need to before you can be emotionally available to your kids.

The majority of the problems with children are actually a problem with the parents. They have unmet needs that they project onto their children because of unresolved conflicts from the past. You can't change the past or the way your parents treated and raised you, but you must face it so that you can change the future.

Most parents skip this entirely because these can be hard and sometimes very painful questions. If your parents hurt you physically or emotionally, if they got divorced when you were young or if you have different beliefs than them it may be very hard for you to go back and face that. That's normal.

But it also can be very dangerous.

To be a great parent, you must learn who you are and why you act the way you do. Because as we say - you do what you know, until you know what to do. And if everything that you have ever known is wrong, you can't possibly be expected to do the right thing now.

Pillar 2: Conquer the Culture

Times continue to change rapidly and, as a parent, you need to understand what it is you are facing. There are numerous more distractions, temptations and influences on your children now then when you were a child.

Sex, drugs and violence are everywhere - and they are all extremely influential. You need to always be aware of what it is influencing your children and how to handle it.

Pillar 3: Teach the Tools

This is why you are here today. You are looking for a parenting tool that will solve all your problems - and these are very important. You need to learn as many as you can so you're prepared for the many situations you will face. But more importantly, you need to learn WHEN and HOW to use these tools properly. Good parenting tools are worthless if used incorrectly.

For instance, timeouts may work for a specific child in a specific situation but not for other children in the same situation. Taking privileges away can work great for one child but not the other. And how long do you take them away? A day? A week? All these actions can work if used correctly.

So you need to learn WHEN to use WHAT to get the best response from your child. You need a whole bag of parenting tricks. You can't just be a one-trick ~~pony~~ parent. Sometimes you need to know whether to trick or treat your children. Too much? Ya I thought so, but you get my point.

Pillar 4: Cultivate the Character

You have an obligation to your children (and society in general) to raise your kids with good character and values. Living by and teaching them proper moral and spiritual beliefs is crucial. I am not here to tell you what to believe - that is completely up to you.

However, you must have a strong moral character - raising your children to become positive and caring people. The world is filled with so much hate and negativity now that this will be hard, but you can do it.

As cliche as this may sound: we need to make the world a better place, one generation at a time.

Why Should You Listen To Me?

Well besides my 26 years of Professional Counseling experience and over 20 years of teaching experience - I have two adult sons myself. It was hard and my wife and I messed up - A LOT. And believe me my sons messed up too.

"Wait a second! You are the so-called parenting expert and you messed up a lot as a parent? Your kids weren't perfect? How is that possible?"

Let me share with you a huge secret:

Your child will never be perfect - and neither will you as a parent. And guess what? It's OK.

Stop trying to be perfect. Instead, dedicate yourself to balancing The Four Pillars of Parenting. Learning and accepting where you came from, deciding where you want to go and how you are going to get there in today's world is the only way you will succeed.

So how do you learn to balance all of The Four Pillars of Parenting? And will it work for your child? Biting as a 3 year old? Hitting as a 6 year old? Self-esteem and body issues in junior high? Drugs and alcohol in high school? How could I possibly know how to handle all those situations? How will my child respond best?

What Can You Do?

You have a few options:

1. Keep doing what you are doing now and hope it gets better. How's that working so far?

2. Search for, read and study all the parenting books out there. Go to every seminar, watch every video and talk to as many parents as possible. The only problem? To get the results you deserve, this option could cost you countless hours a day and thousands of dollars a year just to keep up.

3. Spend $100+ an hour to hire a Professional Therapist. (Click Here to set up a session with me)

4. You become a member of Dr. Ray On Parenting.

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Here's Just Some of What You Get In Each Issue of
The Four Pillars of Parenting Newsletter:

• Pillar 1: Prevent the Pattern: Everyone has a point in their parenting lives when they come to a realization. It is similar for each parent and their response to it is always the same. Your child does something wrong and you respond by saying or doing something - but this isn't your normal response. Instead, it's a response that makes you say, "Oh My Goodness! I just sounded like my father (or mother)". Which is ALWAYS followed by the phrase, "I told myself I would NEVER be like him (or her)". Well guess what? There is a professional name for this: Family of Origin. In this section, I will help you understand why you act like your parents and why, unless you learn what to do, you will always just do what you know.

• Pillar 2: Conquer the Culture: I will keep you caught up on all the new "cool stuff" out there. Websites, Video Games, Movies, TV, Drugs, Alcohol, Sex and everything else. Times change fast and there is no way for us "old-folk" to keep up. So I will keep my ear to the ground and make sure you are up to date on all the things you need to be watching out for.

• Pillar 3: Teach the Tools: Each month I will give you a new parenting tool or technique that I have tested and perfected through my years working with parents. Topics will include: how to change or stop a bad behavior, how to properly discipline to get the best results, how to build stronger relationships with your children and much more. You should always have an option in parenting and this will give you all the tools you need.

• Pillar 4: Cultivate the Character: Being a Senior Minister, I will give you a thought or verse each month that relates directly to your parenting today. The Bible may be old but you will be surprised how relevant it still is. Want proof? Put this on the fridge: "Children, obey your parents. - God". AMEN right? If only it was that easy.

• Take Action: At the end of each section, I will help you learn HOW to use what I have just taught you. Steps that you can take immediately to start seeing results. Knowing what to do means nothing if you don't implement it. So I will help you start doing what you have just learned.

• Ask Dr. Ray: This section is for you. You send us the questions and I answer them. It is as simple as that. Whatever your question or issue we will do our best to answer as many of them as possible.

• Media Corner: I will let you know what I am reading, watching and listening to right now. You will get the inside scoop on the BEST resources available, so you’re always plugged in, feeding your brain and growing as a parent.

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• Why one parent is usually seen as the "hard parent" while the other is the opposite or the "soft parent".

• What you can do to balance with your spouse.

• Why the way you respond to different parenting situations shape your children.

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So Are You Shocked?

Are you surprised I didn't say that I have a quick and easy solution to your parenting problems? Well I could have, but I owe it to you to be honest because the reality is that great parenting takes time and effort. After all, if you only had to read a book and follow five steps everyone would already be a great parent.

I know some people reading this won't like what I have to say and will hit the back button and keep looking for that "next big thing". I also know that those same people will be no further ahead a year from now then they are today. But for those of you that listen to what I say, take action and become a member of Dr. Ray On Parenting I promise you will be ecstatic with the results you get.

This isn't the next big thing, but it's what thousands of parents do every day to be the best parent they can be. So if you want to finally make a lasting change in your parenting, if you are willing to put in the time and work to learn to balance The Four Pillars of Parenting then we can help you. You have a month to decide if we are right for you. So what do you have to lose?

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